Kindness

The Lord has been gracious to allow me to be a stay at home to my four little kiddos. I love my job and can't imagine doing anything else. My days are full of cooking, doing laundry, cleaning up messes, and teaching my children to be loving and kind. It seems that kindness is a never ending theme in our home. I have the privilege of training, rebuking, and correcting their little hearts and pointing them to Christ while showing them their need for the Gospel. So, we are always talking about how we are to be kind to one another. It always amazes me at how early our sin nature shows itself and how we are born to be naturally self absorbed and think only about what we want. Lately I have been more convicted at ways that I also do not show kindness. It is easy to see that when a child doesn't want to share a toy that he is not being kind, but what about all the ways I am unkind when I loose my patience or give a short response all because things are not going my way.

In Titus 2 we see that the older women are to teach the younger women to be kind. This quality is essential for us to commend the gospel in our homes and through our lives. Jerry Bridges says that kindness "is a sincere desire for the happiness of others. After observing my own life there are three sins that usually hinder this godly desire: anger, bitterness, and judging,

We are always talking about what's in our hearts with the children. Our expressions of anger reveal the sin that is in our heart. We so often want our own way and not God's, and when we can't have our own way we become angry. I realize this is not only something that my three old struggles with but I do too. So many times I want things done my way and when things don't seem to be going that way I get angry thus revealing what is in my heart. Matthew 5:18 says, "what comes out of the heart proceeds from the heart". Whether I want  a clean and orderly house or a few minutes of peace I am propelled to anger when I do not get my way. I must humble myself and submit to God and confess and repent of my sin. Only God can help us turn from anger and cultivate kindness in our hearts.

Hurt feelings are another thing that we talk about a lot in our home. When we are hurt by someone elses sin it can lead to bitterness towards that person if we are not careful. When we replay the offenders wrong in our lives and become withdrawn and fall into self-pity then chances are we have succumb to bitterness. We have to remember to forgive others in the same way Christ forgave you. As we look to Christ we will be able to grant forgiveness and kindness to others.

Lastly, we need to be careful to not judge others motives. Sometimes it is so easy to assume we know the reason behind why someone treated us the way that they did. We can be so inclined to look for the worst in others. Instead of looking for the faults in others we should ask the Holy Spirit to help us make loving judgments of others. 1 Corinthians 13:7 says, "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. We shouldn't ignore sin in others lives but we shouldn't assume they are sinning until there is solid evidence.

So as we seek to be kind to others remember it is the Lord who sees our efforts and whether or not it is noticed by others we do it to glorify Christ. I pray the the Lord would give me a heart that is kind to others and it is not prone to anger, bitterness, or judging others. Life is so much sweeter when we show kindness. I want my life to be marked by one of kindness and to set the example for my children.

What is a way that you can show kindness to someone else today?

Love,
Brooke