Dust Bunny Sins and Not Loving this World

“Let us seek treasure in heaven, lest we awake to find that we are paupers for evermore.” – JC Ryle

The Lord recently gave me a check-up that left me speechless.

Have you ever been in a situation, an ordinary day with an ordinary conversation, and a little something comes up and you find yourself shocked at your response.

In the words of You’ve Got Mail, “Boom! It’s Mr. Nasty.”

I think the Lord gives us those opportunities to show us the dust bunny sins that hide under the couch in our hearts. The Lord recently blessed me with one of these sweet opportunities, where Clay threw out a random idea and I was surprised at the panic I felt in my heart. “What!! Change the way things are? May it never be! I like my life! I like the way things are. I like what I have! No change!!!!”

And “Boom” – there was Mr. Nasty.

My response revealed so many flaws, among which were

                - forgetting that my life needs to be aimed at God’s glory, not my own

- thinking I own anything

- thinking I needed to be happy

-clinging too tightly to the things of this world

And I am so grateful that the Lord showed me this. I struggled and stewed and prayed, and am still praying, confessing the idols in my heart and asking God to give me the grace to destroy them. I’ve had to copy Paul David Trip and physically pray with my hands open to remind myself that “The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away; Blessed be the name of the Lord.” It is difficult not to get caught up in what I see. I am too often distracted by what my hands can touch. My eyes linger on pretty, glamorous things that do not actually matter.

And here is where the need to renew my mind becomes so clear. 1 John warns about this very thing, 

saying,

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world – the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life – is not from the Father but is from the world. And the World is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.” 1 John 2:15-17

As Jesus taught in Luke 9:23-25,

“And he said to all, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever saves his life for my sake will find it. For what does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses or forfeits himself?’”

I am always in danger of being like the crowd who followed Jesus when they were fed, but left him afterward. The daily taking up the cross, realizing the world and its desires are passing away, and being diligent to do the will of God who abides forever is a worthwhile yet constant battle. I don’t want to be deluded; I don’t want to be distracted from the reality of God’s call on my life.

How about you? How do you battle the tempting sirens of this world? What keeps you from being sidetracked by earthly things?

Love

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about love.  After all, this has certainly been a summer packed with weddings. I’ve had friends who have gotten engaged.  Tyler and I just celebrated our second anniversary.  Yes, love is in the air! But this isn’t the love that I’ve been thinking about.  

The love of the body of Christ, the love that should be between believers . . . this is the love that the Lord has continuously brought to my mind and confronted my heart with over the last several weeks.  I’m immensely grateful for the recent teaching we’ve received from Pastor Shane on 1 Corinthians 13.  And in the weeks that have followed, I’ve had to ask myself a difficult question.  Where is my love?  

I don’t think it’s a secret that a very real danger that exists in any church, even one that is wholly dedicated to deep, exposition of the Word, is that we can fool ourselves into equating agreeing with truth with putting truth into action.  Honestly, it’s a lot easier for me to sit under teaching and think of all the ways other people need to hear what’s being taught than for me to admit that I need to hear it.  Additionally, I need to stop going into times of preaching, teaching, or Bible study with the assumption that just because I know truth doesn’t mean I’m living it out.  Instead, I need to assume that I am always lacking, because guess what?  I am.   

Here are some hard truths on love I’ve had to wrestle with, admit to, and in many cases, repent of: 

 1.  Love changes how I think

 I’m commanded to love ALL believers. 

There is no shortage of verses in Scripture requiring us to love the body, but one of the clearest to me is found in John 13: 34-35.  

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you 

have love for one another.”

There are no conditions or caveats put on this love for the body.  No “you only have to love believers who are your closest friends” or “you only have to love believers who don’t annoy, frustrate, or irritate you.” This is a call to love all believers at all times under all circumstances.  

It’s very easy for me to come to church or college group with the mindset that I’m going to fellowship with just my friends or the people that I may know really well.  That is selfish.  I ought to come with the mindset of “Are there new people/visitors to whom I can be a friend? Who can I encourage today outside of my comfort zone?” In truth, the best friendships and relationships I have today, including that of my husband, are ones that forced me to get out of my comfort zone and meet new people.  I should never be content that I have “just enough” friends within the body and lack the desire to forge new relationships.  If that is my heart, I don’t have love for all believers.  And if I don’t have love for ALL believers, I don’t have love at all.  

2.  Love changes what I do

Love = Service

Phil. 2:3-8 “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,  but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

Our greatest example of a loving, selfless, sacrificial life is Jesus Christ.  He loved us to the point of death.  But imagine if Christ responded to the command from His Father to love us poor, weak, annoying, unlovable people with human and selfish excuses: 

“Ugh! Her?!? I don’t feel like dying for her! She is so annoying!”

“Can’t I just die for my disciples?  I mean, they’re my friends.”

“I’m tired and I’ve had a long day.  I’ll do it tomorrow.” 

I’m so grateful that Christ’s love is not like that! And His love wasn’t in word only but in action, too!  Love is a choice.  Love is an action.  Love that is real and genuine will be fleshed out in ministry.  And that ministry isn’t always convenient or even appreciated.  However, if I truly love the body, I will be pursuing ways to serve the it, rather than myself.  

3.  Love changes who I am 

Am I really changed?

1 John 4: 7-11 “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.  Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, 

we also ought to love one another.”

Love for the church is not only a command but it is also a mark of true, genuine belief.  Lack of love for believers has many faces.  It’s more than just being at odds with someone.  It can manifest itself as selfishness that refuses to serve but expects to be served, a critical spirit toward church leadership, failure to seek out ways to encourage those beyond my most intimate circle of friends, ignoring the call to be transparent with each other and seek to be discipled as well as to be discipling, etc.  

I had a professor in college who was known for saying, “Ministry is a natural overflow of your love for God.  So, if you aren’t ministering to others, what does that say about your love for God?” Over the years, and even in the last few weeks, I’ve had to do this “gut check.”  What does my pattern of love (or the lack thereof) say about my faith?  Does it prove my salvation to be real?  Or should I be concerned about what I’m seeing?  

My heart in sharing this with you all and encouraging you to think on these things is not to be harsh.  But I do hope it is shocking.  Why?  Because shocking things get our attention.  And, when it comes to God's commands for love, we need to pay attention because the stakes are high.  If we continue to live in such a way that only receives theological teaching, doctrine, and truth about love but neglect to put it into practice toward ALL of the body, we are living in a state of delusion.  We delude ourselves into thinking we are growing, learning, and maturing.  We think we are okay, when in fact we are lacking a primary and vital thing . . . love for God and for His church.  

The truth is that I haven’t been loving as I ought to.  But now, confronted with truth, I am called to act not just agree.  If I love the Lord, I will pursue keeping His commandments . . . I will pursue love.  So, pursue it I will.  May we all as young women of faith, exhort, encourage, and challenge each other to love as He commands us to . . . to love as He first loved us.  


Elisabeth